The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*CK is tiny book compared to all other books in this genre, yet don’t let this tininess fool you.
Its premise is simple, yet so deep and powerful that I read it twice in a row only to find it even more enjoyable the second time. It’s talking about what you should give a F about, and what you should not, because after all, as the author, Mark Manson puts it elegantly in a few words:
You have a limited amount of f*cks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a f*ck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you're going to get f*cked.Mark Manson@iammarkmanson
There are 4 main things that I have learned reading this book,
- Why should I not care about so many things, like what others think of me. I read about this before, even tried to use it in my life and had done so to some extent, but I couldn’t go all out on it. Reading this book helped me understand the why behind this, and so, I find it much more easier to stay on track and fully execute this idea in my day to day life.
- Next is the importance of measuring the right metrics. Mark does an awesome job explaining why some metrics that we measure ourselves against are dead wrong. These are the metrics that are not under our control, or we choose the ones that matter not to us, but to the people around us.
This is the reason why we’re not satisfied with our blessings, that’s why we’re not enjoying our life and the present moment but get drowned in tsunami of What Ifs and the euphoria of illusory glories we never had.
- Taking 100% responsibility for each and every situation in our lives makes our lives easier by empowering oneself to take control instead of feeling like a disposable pawn in a chess game others play.
By understanding this simple fact we no longer point fingers, or look to find someone to blame. It just completely resonated with my soul.
- The last one is the concept of uncertainty, I used to expect a high degree of predictability and certainty from life, I wanted everything to go according to my plans, even tried to outsmart life by making tens of plans for different possible situations, but it never went on like I wanted it to… And it shouldn’t.
After reading this book I’m much more at peace with life and with myself. I observe the flow of life without the urge to be in control of everything, manage my time and energy the way I want to (By managing the Fs I give or don’t give.), and I’m living more in the present moment.
Would I recommend it? Yes, Especially if you’re struggling with sayin no, and setting up boundaries.
Would I read it again? Maybe, leaning more toward no.
9 out of 10 to this fantastic book.